The divorce rates are constantly rising. The rates of divorces have gone up to 50% in the past 30 years. Divorce rates also vary with the partners’ level of education, religious beliefs, and many other factors. But when divorce happens it’s difficult for adults as well as their children. For adults, this phase can be the most stressful phase of their life. Divorce usually happens when there is an uncertainty in the future of the couple. While divorce may be necessary and the healthiest choice for some, others may wish to try to salvage whatever is left of the union. Some couples analyze their problems and go for counselling. These are the 5 reasons why you should go for marriage counselling if you are facing them :
Negative communication and need for marriage counselling
Once the communication starts deteriorating it is really hard to get the relation back. Negative communication can include anything that leaves one partner feeling depressed, insecure, disregarded, or wanting to withdraw from the conversation. The tone of the conversation also plays a part.
Having an Affair
Recovering from an affair is not impossible, but it takes a lot of work. It takes commitment and a willingness to forgive and move forward. There is no magic formula for recovering from an affair. The only way they can be healed is through going for counselling. But even if that doesn’t help its best for the couple to move on.
When separation is the only solution
When a couple gets into a big argument a break is always advisable. However, when a timeout turns into an overnight stay away from home or eventually leads to a temporary separation, this may indicate a need for counselling. Usually spending time away does not help to resolve the issue instead it develops the thought that time away is better.
Staying together for Children
If the couple feels that it’s good to stay together for the sake of children. Often couple thinks that they are doing the right thing but they are actually not as it is indirectly making things worst for them.
When partners can’t resolve their issues
When a couple begins to experience discord and they are aware of the discord, knowing is only half the battle. Many times I have heard couples say, “We know what’s wrong, but can’t fix it”. This is a perfect time to get a third party involved. If a couple is stuck, a skilled clinician may be able to get them moving in the right direction.